The Best 'Love Language'
Valentine's Day Gifts
Do you know your partner's love language and how to speak it? We all have a different way of giving and receiving love, and understanding your partner's love language plays a big role in the overall quality of your relationship. The gifts you give your loved one on special occasions, like Valentine's day, speak volumes too and of course you don't want to leave that up to luck!
Dr. Gary Chapman, Ph.D., describes the five love languages as: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and physical touch. While all of these languages are part of our relationships, everyone identifies more closely with one or two of them. Learn how to select gifts that speak to your significant other in their preferred language, and you'll choose the best gift every time!
In this special Valentine-inspired blog post, we break down the basics of love language gifting according to the five different love languages, so you can shop for your sweetheart with confidence.
'Words of Affirmation' Gift Ideas
People with words of affirmation as their love language want your compliments, and "I love you's" on a regular basis. This often extends to written communications like texting and interacting on social media. Our favorite gift ideas for words of affirmation are love letters with meaningful messages and jewelry engraved with words of affection and encouragement that they can carry with them every day.
Valentine's Gifts for 'Quality Time'
People whose love language is quality time want their partner's time and undivided attention.They need you to be an active listener, to make eye contact and eliminate distractions while you're together. Conversation and sharing recreational activities are also highly valued by those with this love language. A few of our favorite quality time gift ideas are: games you can play together, a meal cooking crate filled with ingredients for a romantic dinner you can cook together, or a set of fine glassware for a romantic evening. A gift that includes an activity for you to share together shows your partner that you value the time you spend with each other just as much as they do.
Best Gifts for 'Acts of Service'
Some people are tickled pink when their significant other goes the distance to make their life easier. These are people who believe that actions speak louder than words. People with acts of service as their love language adore being pampered. You may find that the best gift for acts of service is the wonderful surprise of an at-home spa day so they can plan a self-care day. An item of every day convenience such as a handbag or belt bag that helps them carry their belongings and stay organized is also appreciated by those with this love language. Every time they reach for their bag as they run out the door, they'll remember that you care enough to give them a gift that makes daily life a little easier to manage.
Valentine's Gift for 'Gift Giving'
Ok, this one seems obvious, but you can get it wrong for people with gifts as their love language too. People with this love language feel most adored when they recieve "visual symbols of love," as Chapman calls it. They look for the symbolic thought behind the gift--paying close attention to presentation, uniqueness, and how the object represents the relationship. Choose a gift that you know they'd like, something that represents their unique style and make sure the presentation is impeccable! Pay as much attention to the wrapping as the gift itself. And while it's not about the price tag for them, those with this love language will appreciate a higher-end, luxury gift when thoughtfully chosen.
'Physical Touch' Gift Ideas
Those with physical touch as their love language feel cared for when you shower them with physical affection, such as hugging, kissing, and snuggling on the couch. They value the feeling of warmth and the comfort that comes with consensual physical touch. Some of our favorite gift ideas for physical touch love language are super cozy blankets you can bundle up in together, and soft loungewear or slippers. People with this love language adore comfort and sensual textures.
In partnership, it's helpful to know your significant other's love language so you can express your love in the way that they best receive it. This Valentine's day will be a wonderful opportunity for you to give your significant other the perfect gift, one that matches their love language.